It is the first week of school. You have prayed, planned, purchased supplies, packed all of the lunches and driven. Driven, driven, and driven. You have driven to school, from school, to piano, dance, soccer, and volleyball and home from all of these things. This is a new season, full of new experiences, and you are so excited to share in it with your kids! You sit in the school pickup line for 20 min, eager to see your sweet people and hear all about their day. They finally hop in the car and your conversation sounds a bit like this...
You: How was your day?
Your sweet kiddo: Fine.
You (totally perplexed, because fine???? Give me a good or a bad any day, but fine...): Fine? Tell me about it.
Kiddo: Mom, my day was fine. It was good. I am tired.
Has this ever happened to you? After a summer of connection, days at the pool, family vacations and missions has finally ended, everyone goes back to school and all you get is "Fine." Occasionally, as parents we must be intentional to draw our children into deeper conversations.
Here are 25 questions that are aimed to give you some much needed insight into your student's day!
1. What made you laugh today?
2. If you could do something over today, what would it be?
3. Did you learn any new words today?
4. Who did you eat lunch with today?
5. What did you hear today that surprised you?
6. What was your favorite class today?
7. If you could be the teacher tomorrow, what would you do differently?
8. Rate your day on a scale from 1 to 10. Why?
9. If an alien spaceship came to your school tomorrow and beamed one person away, who would you want that person to be?
10. What was the most important thing you learned today?
11. If your day had a theme song, what would it be?
12. What do you think your teachers will be talking about today in the teacher's lounge?
13. What are you reading in class?
14. If you were a movie/TV character today, who would you have been? (Please not Ferris Bueller)
15. Who did you serve or bless today?
16. Who blessed you today?
17. If you could read minds, whose mind would you read today?
18. What question did you ask in class today?
19. Do you feel like anyone was left out today?
20. What was the most interesting thing you heard today?
21. What do you like the most out your class schedule?
22. Was there anything that you didn't do today, but wish you had?
23. If one of your classmates could be the teacher tomorrow, who would you want it to be?
24. If you could give your teacher a nickname, what would it be?
25. Who at school makes you laugh and smile the most?
Make sure that you ask open ended questions. When in doubt, start with something you know. For example, " Your class last year was bigger than it is this year, which do you like better?" Try to keep your questions positive!
Most importantly, when they start talking, be quiet and LISTEN!